Here are 5 of the most common challenges that men face in Singapore while dating. These are very real dating problems that many Singaporean men face.
1. Girls not swiping right to you on online dating apps!
If you are wondering whether you are overthinking this, you are not. Research has shown that women simply swipe right a lot less than men on dating applications!
This is a common problem for men, and especially in a country like Singapore. There are two reasons for this.
Firstly, the majority of Singaporean girls are still pretty conservative when it comes to dating. In Singapore, where men are usually expected to take the initiative. Therefore, women rarely swipe right to men.
Secondly, women usually get a lot of matches on such mobile dating applications. Therefore, they become very selective on who they swipe right too, since there is a high chance they will match if they do swipe right.
Additionally, most dating apps also have way more guys than girls, causing girls to gain the clear upper hand.
2. Girls may not appear to respond positively even if they like you!
Girls in Singapore are generally not as outward responsive as girls from other countries may be. Girls in Singapore like to act coy and shy, even if they do like you if you approach them. This can be a confusing signal to guys if you tried approaching a girl, and she just looks shy without responding much. You probably think that the girl does not like you even if 10 or 20% of the times, the girl actually does!
3. Some girls have unrealistic expectations
It can sometimes be the case that some girls have clearly unrealistic expectations – for who they are.
Some girls may want the perfect deal – tall, handsome and rich guys but they are nowhere as attractive in the opposite sense. It can result in potentially lots of unrealistic expectations. Even dating agencies in Singapore report that this is sometimes a big issue for them.
You can watch the following video to find out more about this ‘unrealistic’ expectations by Chinese girls.
4. Girls want guys who are rich and successful in their careers yet have lots of free time for them
As if being rich and wealthy is not difficult enough, some girls want these guys to spend 100% of their time on them as well. Part of the reason could be them watching too many Korean dramas, where they only show the children of rich parents in the shows dating.
If you are a successful businessman, you probably are putting a lot of mental effort into your work. It can be very difficult to find a girl in Singapore who understands your work commitment. This is only getting worse because Korean dramas are getting more popular by the month.
5. Girls want guys who are ‘ahead’ of them yet Singaporean men are clearly disadvantaged by 2 years
Singapore is a city state. Most city girls are materialistic. It is also normal for women to want men who are financially ahead of them. This is still very much an Asian thing.
This is not a problem if you come from a rich or wealthy family, or prefer much younger girls. However, if you like a girl your age, and you do not come from a rich family – too bad. Life sucks and you need to work hard.
Singaporean guys are disadvantaged by at least 2 years due to NS. As a result of this, girls tend not to go out with guys of their same age in Singapore, even if everything else about the guy is perfect. Only a tiny percentage of such couples eventually reach marriage, or even date for at least multiple years.
Yet, if you try to work hard and ‘catch up’ and eventually ‘overtake’, you will be facing problem number 4 as per above.